You love me cause I got my own...??

A couple years ago I vaguely remember having a conversation with a good friend of mine about Fantasia's Baby Mama song. Now I am a fan of Fantasia and of Baby Mamas alike. But I was asking this friend where the Ode to US was.Us being the sisters who weren't baby mamas or video vixens, the ones who were reformed round the way girls, off at college working our behinds off to make something of ourselves? I can't remember much more about the conversation beyond the 'Yea girl we gets no love'. So imagine how tickled I was to have Ne-yo come out with Ms. Independent. And then the soon to follow: She Got Her Own with Mr. Foxx and Fab.
Finally!! Someone was acknowledging all that we've been trying to do. We didn't have to have a baby or shake it fast in front of the camera. And what made it better for me was the fact that a African American man was singing. Not that we need their approval but their support is always nice. Black woman and Black men of my time (in my opinion) have a love/hate relationship. But that's a blog for another time I digress...I was riding my Ms. Independent high for awhile... before the backlash hit.
What Backlash u ask? Well I started listening to lyrics and praise we were getting and a lot of what I heard disturbed me a bit. "I love her cause she got her She don't need mine, So she leave mine alone There ain't nothing that's more sexy Than a girl that want but don't need me" So wait... I'm confused. Is it that we are finally being recognized for making it do what it do OR are they just tired of the Gold diggers sucking them dry?
Then let's not forget backlash #2: Sugar Daddys!! All of a sudden its like "You Ms. Independent right? When you buying me something?" Hey don't get me wrong I don't mind dipping into my own pocket since I completed my 12 step Dinner Whore group. I don't mind buying dinner for myself or my date every so often. Or giving a guy a gift on a day that isn't his B-Day, our anniversary, our Christmas. But when in the song did it say that we became your personal piggy bank? Break glass in case of EMERGENCY or when the new game system comes out.
And the worse backlash of them all: thinking that is ALL that we are. Yes I have two advanced degrees. Yes I hold a managerial position at work. Yes I have my own place and pay my own bills ON TIME. But when did that turn into: I don't want a partner to share my life with and to tell me shut up when I get to high and mighty? Or I don't want children to love and adore and most importantly wash that sink full of dishes after dinner? I think somewhere between Ms. Independent and She Got Her Own someone dropped the ball. I AM Ms. Independent but don't love me because you got burned by a chick who had diamonds in her eyes or you looking to save yourself a couple dollars. And please Please PLEASE remember: I'm not JUST Ms. Independent... I'm EVERY woman.