Everybody Knows

Ok so I LOVE music. No.. like I LOVE music. Reggae, RnB, Soca, Alternative, Rock, Country, yo.. I even listen to world music (Shout Out to Tiziano Ferro one of Italy's best). My Creative Zen (shove it you Ipoders) is chock full of music. I sometimes just let it play on random just to laugh at how eclectic my tastes are. Buju Banton be belting out "I'm a livin while I'm livin to di father I will pray only him know how mi get thru everyday" then Faith Hill starts singing "And I can feel you breath Its washing over me And suddenly I'm melting into you" and then Hinder starts screaming: "Honey why you calling me so late?". Its a high for me. I just love it.

You know what I'm loving on right now though? John Legend's album Evolver. See I 'borrowed' it from my sister a couple weeks ago and I am running this CD like crazy. I have not been disappointed yet by Mr. Legend. He is just... there are no words. I love this album just as much as Once Again and Get Lifted. From the up tempo Green Light to the mesmerizing I Love, You Love: I'm sold (and my sister may be out of a CD). But there is one particular track on here that I can't let just play twice (once is not an option for me): 'Everybody Knows' aka Track 4.

I'll be the first to admit post-break up the song REALLY spoke to me on the most obvious level of... "Dang.. I really miss dude. Why are we broken up again?" Then after the second time I play it and I remember the 'Why' I hear something else: "Everybody knows that.. Nobody really knows: How to make it work or... How to ease the hurt, We've heard it all before and... Everybody knows: Just how to make it right... I wish we gave it one more try..... Cause everybody knows.. But nobody really knows." Now Mr. Legend isn't say anything that we don't already know.. Or do we?

How many of us have gone to a friend after an argument with our significant other and got one of these two responses: "Girl I TOLD you he aint NO GOOD. You know what you gotta do right?!"/"My dude I don't even know why you sittin here hung up on shorty... She wasn't that cute. Think about all di chicks you can get NOW!".... or lets give our friends the benefit of the doubt and say we hear something like: "Girl don't even get yourself all worked up. It is probably not as big a deal as your making it out to be. I'm sure he meant.."/ "Dude you got a good chick right there. Whateva she said you did... Just say sorry! It don't even matter... And get flowers! Chicks love that kinda thing" I'm gonna put myself out there and admit I have gotten these responses before from well meaning friends who love me and who only want my happiness.. But they don't know Jack Schitt!!

No one really knows HOW to make a relationship work. Like a fingerprint; no two relationships are the same. Yet everywhere you go there is a fix. Everybody always has advice for you and your relationship and they know exactly what you need to do to get back on the right path.... Or do they? No they don't. As well meaning as the advice is; first and foremost you should pray on it and then you might want to talk to your significant other. The two of you are in the relationship. Not you your significant other and your cousin Jackie/Jason or ya sister's baby's father's play cousin Maria/Mark. No. Just you and your significant other.

Granted some say Love is Blind and you need to have somebody on the outside to 'check' you. But lets be real careful about who we are leaving ourselves accountable too. Your best friend who was cheated on by their last two partners and hasn't gotten over it quiet yet MIGHT not be the ticket. And also please remember that whoever it is hearing your 3AM rant is going to have to play Devil's Advocate because lets face it they don't have an objective view of your significant other. Majority of the what they've probably heard is bad with a splash of good every blue moon. And honestly when its all said and done whether you stay with your significant other or not YOU will deal with the consequences not whoever gave you advice. If you must; be very mindful of who you let into your relationship.. Also be mindful of what advice you give out yourself (I'm still feeling a tad guilty about the advice I gave a friend in 7th grade to break up with her bf.. the idiot did it! And blamed me for it) because I'm pretty sure you don't know Jack Schitt either.. 'Cause Everybody knows.. But nobody really knows'