You ever happen upon someone randomly and know that your meant to be friends? Your spirit just takes to them and as you continue to converse with them your initial response is confirmed...? I know what your thinking and no it isn't a man! Lol
I was waiting for the bus in the rain this past Sunday and it was pouring out. I always have an umbrella in my bag but I was sure by the time I got to the bus stop the bus would be pulling up. It wasn't. I'd forgotten that when it rains the bus is always late. It was. I had a hood on and a fairly long coat so I decided to leave the umbrella in the bag since I was sure the bus would arrive right after I pulled it out.
As 5, 10, then 15 minutes roll by the fake feathers on the hood started to drip and my glasses were beginning to fog up. A young woman standing next to me offered to share her umbrella with me. For half a second I almost declined and just pull out my own but something told me to accept her offer. I smiled and graciously thanked her saying she must have noticed the fog on my glasses. We got a good laugh out of that and began to idly chat with one another.
Turns out she was also headed to my Church for the 1pm service due to missing the 1030. And as the bus came and we settled in for the ride we discovered we had a lot more in common. So much so that after awhile I informed her that we were obviously twins.
I tell you this story (especially my fellow sisters brown, yellow, white, etc.) because we need to be more open to the ones we meet in the street every day. Over the last few months I've met and become very good friends with 3 women not including the one I met this past Sunday.
Now I know a few people will be quick to remind me that some females are triflin and give it time and her inner she devil may reveal itself. This may be true; but I honestly doubt it. I've been a pretty good judge of character for awhile and her spirit is good. Granted no one is perfect and we all piss our friends off from time to time so I know I didn't meet an angel.
Every woman needs a couple good solid girlfriends. And there is nothing wrong with the friends we already have. But sometimes we hold on to those friends we've had for 15+ yrs just because they've stayed around long enough. We've out grown some of them while others have become a part of our families. That doesn't negate opportunities like this one for us to meet and make new friends. I read an article once where it highlighted the different friends women have: the travel buddy, the work friend, the friend who you've known since pre-school, etc. They also mentioned the new friend and stressed the importance of opening oneself up to the possibility of having one. I call them "new best friends".
Granted this young woman I came across may not be my new best friend. But something tells me the potential is there for her to become a good friend. I'm glad I left my umbrella in my bag. And maybe the next time your standing in the rain you should too. Ok I'm rocking dreads and I know my sisters with a perm are NOT feeling that so maybe not! But at the least smile at your fellow sister instead of ice grilling her and fronting like those shoes she has on aren't fab-tastic! She may just be your new best friend.
I absolutely love this post!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post.
ReplyDeleteThis is good... I have a SMALL circle of friends only two girlfriends who aren't family. I've had some pretty bad experiences with girls growing up and find it hard warming up to women. I'm friendly but actually find others to be my friends. As we're getting older my girlfriends and I are seeing less and less of eachother and I've been saying for a little bit of time now that maybe I should be open to making new friends. I haven't yet had the opportunity, but your post was a good sign, that it could actually work without it backfiring! :-)
ReplyDeleteaww that's really sweet. older men and women always talk to me. while they have a lot to offer, i dont know if id be besties with them.
ReplyDelete@T.dixon lol yea I dont know if you want a new surrogate grandma but hey they can give GREAT wisdom!
ReplyDelete@therealjspot I completely understand. I have heard many a horror story about some females. Luckily I didnt endure the madness until I got to college so Im more willing to make new friends. But you have to be willing to put yourself out there. I feel as women we are more willing to do it with men in terms of relationships but with other women we are more quick to go the negative route than the positive. And as we get older I am realizing the value of great female friends. I do not take these relationships lightly. None of us should.
@My Natural Write/Anonymous thank you so much for reading as well as taking the time to leave a comment. Tell a friend to Tell a friend to Tell a friend to CHECK IT OUT! Blessings everyone!
I agree with this post whole heartedly! I find that sometimes ppl come into your life for different reasons, and we as women tend to always have our walls up about ppl, and being caribbean I've heard so many stories but I am all for speaking to new ppl and enjoying new found friends.. Have fun, because new friends bring new adventures, and as long as those adventures are safe and joyful why not partake..
ReplyDeleteHave fun!
Great post! It's very true women seem to be scared to make new friends for some reason. Speaking from personal experience, I've met other women in random places and through a short convo found out we had so much in common we could have been twins. We exchange numbers, maybe chat a few times and go about our ways. I think it's important for women to be more receptive to building relationships with each other. You never know how someone can change your life.
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